You may have been told you have brought ‘shame’ on your family or community, or given them a ‘bad name.’ When someone in your family or community hurts or threatens to hurt you because of this, it is called ‘honour-based’ violence (HBV).
Many young people experiencing HBV think it’s their fault, but it’s important to remember that nobody has the right to hurt you because you have taken decisions or actions that they may not agree with.
Because HBV often happens in families and communities, it is really important to get support outside of the family to help keep you safe.
Why is this happening?
Your family or community may say you have brought ‘shame’ on them because:
- You are in a relationship with someone from a different religion/culture
- You do not want to marry someone your family wants you to, or you refuse a forced marriage (when someone is made to get married even though they don’t want to)
- They do not agree with the clothes you wear and the way you dress
- You are gay, lesbian,...
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