General Article I’m young. They’re old. Yet our friendship means the world to me

Topic Selected: Relationships Book Volume: 424

Intergenerational friendships can anchor a person in their local community, help them access new world views – and be fun.

By Erica Berry

Imagine someone living alone, loosely tethered to their community, with family far away. Maybe this person wouldn’t say they are lonely – maybe they know how to muffle it, making cheery conversation in the grocery line – but the feeling is there, a moon tugging the tides of their days.

One day, a neighbour appears at their door. The two are decades apart and have shared pleasantries in passing, but nothing more. This time, the older neighbour holds a steaming bowl of soup. The occupant’s first thought is dread. I am being pitied. Still, the soup is good. Literally and figuratively, a heart is warmed.

Who have you imagined for these roles? Who have you cast? It is hard, now, to see myself as that house’s lonely inhabitant, having moved alone to Traverse City, Michigan, for a temporary teaching job when I was 27. I wore my loneliness like a rash, a ...

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